Is there really such a phenomenon as a “broken heart”? We hear this all the time when people refer to the after-effects of a “painful” experience. Someone either said or did something that “hurt” us; leaving us feeling with anger or disappointment. As a result we choose to run towards the depths of our solitude along with a “broken heart”, leading to more self-flagellation. So I wondered, what is a “broken heart”?
If you were to say so and so, or this and that “broke my heart”; you are in actuality referring to your interpretation of someone else’s behavior. You are interpreting their behavior towards you as “painful”, or “intentional”. Your interpretation of your experiences or interactions arise from your mind’s set beliefs, which were shaped, most likely,in infancy.
Understand that Your pain was not caused by someone else, as that someone else is also facing their false beliefs and perceptions about THEMSELVES. We are always manifesting our false beliefs with others. Hence, you will continue to suffer and live in fear of “getting hurt” until you reach full awareness of your falsely adopted ideas about YOURSELF and your true nature.
So taking this into account instead of saying “this is going to be painful” or “this is going to break my heart” , you can say: “There is a good chance my false beliefs about my worth and my lovability will get triggered in this experience” or if you are experiencing a “broken heart” you can say: “ALL my false beliefs about me and my worth, just got triggered”.
I also concluded that by labeling an experience, mostly in relation to others and with others, as “painful” or “heart breaking” means that you are giving your power (identity, self-worth) away to that situation or that person. You are letting them dictate and define your state of happiness. On the other hand if you know and believe with every ounce of your being the degree of your worth and lovability – there can be no experience that will ever “hurt” you.
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